My Life's Lessons..


This post is not only inspired by my own experiences, it has got some of the lessons I learnt from my friends as well. It is meant not to hurt anyone. In any case if you think you are offended, you can stop then and there.


"There are no mistakes in life, only lessons. There is no such thing as a negative experience, only opportunities to grow, learn and advance along the road of self-mastery. From struggle comes strength. Even pain can be a wonderful teacher." - Robin S Sharma

I am writing this post since one of my anonymous readers suggested me this topic through skribit. I couldn't neglect since this was the first suggestion from my readers. The life lessons you have learnt from relationships (could be based on family, friends or love). I was wondering why on earth would someone want to know my life's lesson. I am no mahatma, nor am I a big cheese. No guy would ever ask me that question bcoz they know who I am. A big time philosopher who has the capability to talk non-stop nonsense about philosophy for days to come. Then why? Only God knows the answer. The italicized words in this post are not mine. They are either quotes or taken from a book or film.

The Lessons

1. Being the son of a full math professor and having a mathematical insect inside my vein, let me start with the formula that teaches you the best lesson of life.

(a+b)^2 = a^2 + b^2 + 2ab

Doesn't ring any bell? Let me explain you then. Any work which is done in pairs or with more people, fetches you a better result than doing the work alone. The square of 'a' and 'b' gives you an additional term '2ab' where as if it had been only one term 'a' you get it's square alone. Simple but powerful. This lesson is acceptable everywhere except sex. No threesomes, foursomes or 'n' number of somes please. :P

2. No matter what, Family comes first. The job, friends, girl friends, girl friend's sisters, every single thing in life comes only after your family. Always remember this, "The love of a family is life's greatest blessing". So love your family even if you don't like them. It's important to make your family relationships work before you offer consideration to others. Respect your parents. You are here in this world, reading my dumb, dim-witted, dopey blog of mine only coz of them. We maybe hardheaded and I know we're far too proud, but, in the hour of need, believe me that there's noone you'd rather have at your side than a kinsman.

3. It's not a problem if you have a 1000 friends, but it is, when all the 1000 of them are your best pals. The number of best mates should always be limited. The number must always be a single digit. The chances of pressure points are huge when you have a large number of best buddies. And also don't ever get close to a person who is younger to you by more than a year or so. My friends always asked me why I had been close to ppl who are younger to me and said it's not healthy but I ignored them. Lately, I did realize that my friends were right. The difference in maturity level will lead to greater problems. So its always safe to be away from them.

4. I strongly believe that there are no guys in this world who are Ramans and undoubtedly no Kannagis in girls. (Click here to know about Kannagi). That's why Ramayana is called as an epic. So don't blindly believe any guy or a girl. By contraries, girls expect their guys to be Raman. If so, there is no harm in pretending to be Raman. Dont be a shithead to confess whatever crime you committed before, to your girl/guy and expect him/her to forgive you. The weak can never forgive, forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Forget being forgiven, don't ever expect the other person to understand you. You go confess your feelings from the bottom of your heart but all you get in turn is "Get lost you lying cheating bastard" from the mouth of your loved one. Even if you go confess, the other person may still think you are a liar. So why go confess? :D. Act like a Raman and get the girl. :P

5. Guys please watch out when a girl comes to you and calls you brother/anna/bhaiya/whatever. Take extra care with such girls, coz being a friend with a girl is okay but being a brother to a girl who is not your blood is pretty perilous. I have also seen guys giving importance to girls than their career. God please save them.

6. Be the one to make somebody smile. Life is short. Make it meaningful by being the reason to make others happy. If people think that you don't deserve to be happy, so be it. Don't let anyone steal your Happiness. If they don't want to enjoy life with you, then just let them be, and enjoy your life without them. Every single person in this world deserves happiness, even if he had committed the biggest crime in the world. Nobody can snatch it from you. Your happiness is in your hands. If you think you are happy, you are happy. If you think you are sad, you are sad.

7. When someone hurts you, forgive them. I believe that Life is all about "loving, caring and forgiving...". It happens far too often. Words can deal a fatal blow to a relationship. People say mean and hurtful things, sometimes intentionally, to hurt the person they love the most. When you haven't forgiven those who've hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward. How powerful this statement is?

8. "There is only one sin. only one. And that is theft. Every other sin is a variation of theft. When you kill a man, you steal a life. You steal his wife's right to a husband, rob his children of a father. When you tell a lie, you steal someone's right to the truth. When you cheat, you steal the right to fairness".
The golden words from the book 'The Kite Runner'.

9. In a fiasco, help your friends. When you're helping your friends make sense of their life, everything about your life makes sense to you.

10. Never ever blame others for your own mistakes. "When you blame others, you give up your power to change". That is a quote by Douglas Noel Adams. It's quite important to burn into your mind how powerful that simple statement really is.

11. If you think that everyone stands with u always in all situations, then you are absolutely wrong. Everyone won't be with u always. Actually no one will be with u always. Its your life and you have to live it whether anyone is with u or not. We have to lead our life what ever happens. Just remember you came all alone to this earth and you will die alone. Everything in between is temporary. Just don't get emotionally attached to anyone or anything coz when that thing or that person leaves you, you can see what is death when u r still alive. This one is not directed at anyone. I liked this one very much and so am putting it up here.

12. This one is for those who have loved and lost. Never be sad for what is over, just be glad that it was once yours. "Never regret what has happened in the past. There is no chaos in this universe. There is a purpose for everything that has ever happened to you, and everything that will happen to you. Remember, every experience offers lessons. So stop majoring in minor things. Enjoy your life". In simple Tamil, "ippo enakku oru figure ah pudichirukkunnu vaiyyaen.. enna pannuvaen theriyuma? Neraa antha ponnaanda poye.. itho paaru.. enakku unna pudichirukkuthu.. unakku enna pudichirukkutha? pudichiruntha okay. Illenna loss. Paavam antha figurekku.. NAMAKKU AAYIRAM FIGURE MADIYUM MACHI.." :D

13. I don't know why, but I get so much involved when it comes to movies. They teach you life's best lessons, don't they?. One such was from the movie Ayan. The scene where Surya and Jegan booze together in the terrace. Jegan says, "Itha pannu atha pannu etha venaa pannu. Nalla kaasu sambaari. 40 45 vayasula apdiye oru stop pannu. Roadla nadantha naalu peru salute adikkanum. Dei Deva, Vaazhura varaikkum eppadi venaalum vazhalaam da. Aana saagum bothu nallavana saaganum. " [Eng:- Do this or that, earn good money, at 40 or 45 put a full stop to it. When you walk on the road, people must salute you with respect. We can live as we like but we must die as good men.]


I hope I covered all my life's valuable lessons in this post. I have a lots more to share but I think this is sufficient enough. I reckon this is my longest blog I have ever written. Now for the anonymous reader who suggested this topic, let me know if I have missed any.

P.S:- I am taking a break from the blogging world for two months till my exams are over. See you guys soon. Miss ya.

Update:- I forgot to mention the most important lesson of my life. It's about relationship. Love your mate. Stay with her. Commit to her. Do not betray her. Do not look at another woman. Do not even fantasize about how life will be in another woman's arms. Maintain, protect, and defend your commitment to your wife/gf. This lesson holds good only for those who are in a relationship. And for people like me (as in, I don't have a girlfriend, I have girlfriendsssssssss), just stick to the other lessons of my life and ignore this one. :P


abis. said...

Loved the justification for this - "That's why Ramayana is called as an epic"... Good post again... i loved the kite runner quote and also the one from ayan movie... thanks for recollecting them!

Arvinth said...

Awesome post da machi.. I really wanted to write a post on life.. But i guess i can copy paste from u now ;)

Carol said...

Man, you should be a lawyer.... or a priest! :D

Fahad Mohammed said...

@ abis thank you machi..

@ arvinth No Copyright infringement dude. You are in US. :P

@ carol I think I will be a good lawyer.. Lol

ashwin said...

Dei Fahad,
This is a nice one da..
I have been around with you for five years in college, not always though, as you mentioned in the blog, but when did you read these many quotes... I am really surprised... Nice to see you growing into a blogger.. Hats off to you da.. Keep it up and keep going...

Ayesha said...

wow.. gr8 lessons.. awesm quotes.. evry1 must read tis..
hats off!
keep gng.. as a blogger..u create the magic spell wid words..
vl miss ur blogs!!
b bck aftr ur examz:):)

Fahad Mohammed said...

@ ashwin ha ha.. machi naan innum katha kathaiya solliruppaen.. but paavam padikkuravangannu vittutaen.. nee online vaa mamu.. niraya solraen..

@ ayesha yep of coz.. how can I not come back? :)

Arunkumar KP said...

Even I noticed the 'Ayan' movie dialouge in terrace. good post.

from the post, I can see that you definitely had deep love at some point of your life. You speak about morale 'theft' and 'life is short-and-helping others'.

This shows you are deeply thinking about nature of life (philosophically and psychologically).

If whatever I said is true -
*** It is time for you to relax... You are having deep stress without your knowledge***

Fahad Mohammed said...

@Arunkumar Dude. Thanks for the comment.. Whatever you mentioned are partially right.. but gone are the days of deep stress.. Thanks again for peeping into my blog..

ask said...

Dai fahad... Great da... Carry on da... Thanks machi for some soothing words

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Sathis said...

Fahad, i really liked, would better say loved many points in the above posts, reason is me too faced couple of them and have witnessed few from my friends. Carry on !!!!!!!!